The Way She Combs Her Hair

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It was an odd situation. For a century and a half, men got rid of their own hair, which was perfectly comfortable, and instead covered their heads with something foreign and uncomfortable. Very often it was actually their own hair made into a wig. People who couldn’t afford wigs tried to make their hair look like a wig.

– Bill Bryson –

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People always ask me how long it takes to do my hair. I don’t know, I’m never there.

– Dolly Parton –

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The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries or the way she combs her hair.

– Audrey Hepburn –

The Clarity Stone: The Meaning of Golden Labradorite

Golden Labradorite can open us to the energies of mental clarity and self-confidence, as well as help us access our personal reservoir of power. It embodies the Sun’s powerful energy — the power of illumination and clarity. It is connected to the Solar Plexus Chakra, the seat of the soul.

Golden Labradorite aids mental clarity and boosts self-confidence, as well as help us access our personal reservoir of power. It can help us focus on what we really want out of life, and give us the resolve to go after it.

Learn more about the Magic of Golden Labradorite.

Flash Fiction Challenge: Explore the Complications of Heroism from Chuck Wendig.

“You are a hero!” my best friend whispered as she hugged me tightly.

“Why?”I asked,“Because I didn’t die?”

Still standing after a brutal year-long Round One in the ring with cancer and its insidious treatment, I need to squeeze my eyes shut to remember my own story.  I squint as I pull the memories out of the bloodied recesses of my synapses and speak with deliberation.  Having forgotten mundane words which once flew off the tip of my tongue, I struggle to string the sentence together in the fog.

There is a normal range of brain damage for boxers and chemo patients.

Like Rocky, I took a beating.  I think if the Oncologists said “Listen, we may cure your cancer, but you and your body will be kicked ahead ten to fifteen years at the molecular level”

By Dr. Perry, PhD

“Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one.” ~Hans Selye

Sublimation is a subconscious psychological defense mechanism whereby we take a negative impulse and channel it into a positive behavior. This is similar to displacement (click here to refer to my earlier post on displacement) but instead of taking a negative impulse, such as aggression towards one’s boss, and displacing that negative feeling onto an innocent third party such as your husband or wife, we take the initial socially unacceptable impulse and direct it towards a positive action. We seek a positive alternative form of fulfillment for the initial destructive urge. According to Freud, the strength of the negative urge would define the strength of the positive outcome.

Our initial impulses can be subconsciously directed into a number of different areas. Here are some ways that we can engage in sublimation.

1. Anger/Emotional…

“You know you have reached perfection of design not when you have nothing more to add, but when you have nothing more to take away.”

– Antoine de Saint-Exupéry. French, writer, poet, aviator

Each day is a new opportunity,
A new unwritten page,
Another chance,
It’s a beginning of something good.

Yesterday may have been a bad one,
Full of disappointments,
Unbearable pains,
But it’s gone now.

Don’t allow the future take away your happiness,
We will get there step after step,
Over worrying about it may create more harm ,
Relax and be open minded.

Today is what matters the most,
Live and enjoy each moment,
Don’t let anything hold you back,
It will be alright.