STRESS – WHAT STRESS

Be at peace Angels!

Cricket Wireless & Soldiers’ Angels

Good Day Angels!  I wanted to share this message with you about an organization I am proud to volunteer at. I hope you are all well.

https://soldiersangels.org/Cricket-Wireless-and-Soldiers-Angels.html

Or feel free to donate…

https://soldiersangels.org/donate.html

Always with Light & Love!

Angelic Postcard- Selfless Giving

I just love these Angelic Postcards!

Enjoy Angels!

Always with Light & Love.

IN THE WAY

Good Day My Amazing Angels:

Isn’t it crazy how one can have things scheduled and planned out and then out of the blue life gets in the way. And, without warning.

My loves, I pray you are all well. I pray the year thus far has treated you all well.

No matter where you are in this place in time please remember to stay positive in this crazy life, always look up, always enjoy the beauty around you, and always – always talk to your Angels. They’re with you and listening. They want to help … just ask.

I’ve missed you all.

Sending you all big hugs and lots of Light and Love.

Cheers!

HNY 2019

A Very Happy New Year Angels!

HAPPY HOLIDAYS & A VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR ANGELS

My Angels ~

I wanted to take this time to wish you all a very Happy Holiday Season and a very Happy New Year.  The upcoming year is going to be a good one and this puts 2018 to rest.  The year of 2018 has been a bit challenging for most, but we must all stay Positive, always keep the Faith and know the next year will be a good one.

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My Angels, please remember to always reach out and talk to your Angels.  Talk to them because they are with you and always near you.  They are there to listen and assist.  You just have to give them a chance and have Faith.

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We ALWAYS have Angelic Guidance – Always.

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Sending you ALL lots of Light and Love!

Happy Holidays and a VERY Happy New Year my dear and Angelic Angels.

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WHAT YOU DIDN’T KNOW ABOUT ANGELS

ASK

https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/reviews/angels-bible-heavenly-host/

“As participants in God’s heavenly council, they contribute to council resolutions, bear witness to his decrees, and assist in his governance of the world (33–46). They also deliver his decrees, explain his activity, and execute his judgment (46–55). They’re both the “heavenly bureaucracy” (13) and “God’s task force” (56). And perhaps most familiarly, they’re God’s heavenly worship team, praising him day and night (55–56).”

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LET’S BE HAPPY

Happy Friday Angels!!!  I hope this message finds you ALL well and enjoying your day thus far.  Are we ready for the weekend?  I know I am and in doing so, I am preparing to be happier than I have been with a little help from my Mindfulness Masterclass at IOA.  Let’s see if the below will work for us ALL should we need it:

  1. Recognize the things that make you unhappy or stressed
  2. Take steps to remove, solve, or change the things that make you unhappy or stressed
  3. Focus your attention on your actions and not on your thoughts when you are not deliberately thinking, so that you allow yourself to relax and be happy
  4. Recognize what you have and be grateful for it
  5. Find and break patterns that cause unhappiness or stress
  6. When you find yourself thinking negative thoughts about yourself, guide your attention elsewhere.
  7. Make time and room for being happy

Let’s try this Exercise together:

Exercise: Stop, take a moment, and decide why you are grateful to have things throughout the day. These things can be anything, but try to aim for at least 8 over the course of a single day. You can use this sentence to express your gratitude:

“I am happy that I have (this) because: ”

For example, “I am happy that I have my job because it provides me with the money I need to live”, “I am happy that I have my phone because it allows me to call my mother and text my best friend”.

You can also apply this to things that might seem bad.

“I am happy that it is raining because it helps plants to grow”

“I am happy I lost my job because it will allow me to change my focus and to find a job that I love “.

Part of gratitude is seeing positives, looking for ways to improve, and deciding why or how something can improve your life. When you figure out why you want something in your life it is very easy to be grateful for it.

My Angels,  this is a process and one that I know we are ALL willing to work on whenever we need it.

ALWAYS with Light & Love!

HAPPY

MINDFULNESS and STRESS

A little something I came across in my class at IOA on Mindfulness to think about… I know I will be considering the following as well:

If you’re stressed about something, stop, consider it, and ask yourself the following questions:

  1. How does it affect me?
  2. Can I fix it? If so, can I do it now?
  3. Will worrying about it solve anything?
  4. Will it affect me tomorrow? The week after? How about 10 minutes from now?
  5. Is my behavior or mental attitude adding to the problem?
  6. Is someone with me adding to the problem?
  7. If it is aproblem with another person, is there some way I could compromise to solve the problem?
  8. Is the problem my fault? If not, who’s fault is it? Does that matter?

These questions will very quickly show you that many of the things we get angry or upset about, like being cut off while driving, don’t actually impact us outside of the moment they happen, yet we allow them to affect our lives for long after they step out of it.

The simple question “Why does it matter” might not redefine your life, but it can redefine how you approach problems, and how long you remain upset about them.

Release   RELEASE… And Let It Go…Just Breathe

Hmmm…. Interesting Food For Thought Angels!

 

 

10 THINGS SMART PEOPLE NEVER SAY

10 THINGS SMART PEOPLE NEVER SAY

I’m not talking about shocking slips of the tongue, off-color jokes, or politically incorrect faux pas. These aren’t the only ways to make yourself look bad. Often it’s the subtle remarks — the ones that paint us as incompetent and unconfident — that do the most damage.

No matter how talented you are or what you’ve accomplished, there are certain phrases that instantly change the way people see you and can forever cast you in a negative light. These phrases are so loaded with negative implications that they undermine careers in short order.

“This is the way it’s always been done”

Technology-fueled change is happening so fast that even a six-month-old process could be outdated. Saying this is the way it’s always been done not only makes you sound lazy and resistant to change, but it could make your boss wonder why you haven’t tried to improve things on your own. If you really are doing things the way they’ve always been done, there’s almost certainly a better way.

“It’s not my fault”

It’s never a good idea to cast blame. Be accountable. If you had any role — no matter how small — in whatever went wrong, own it. If not, offer an objective, dispassionate explanation of what happened. Stick to the facts, and let your boss and colleagues draw their own conclusions about who’s to blame. The moment you start pointing fingers is the moment people start seeing you as someone who lacks accountability for their actions. This makes people nervous. Some will avoid working with you altogether, and others will strike first and blame you when something goes wrong.

“I can’t”

I can’t is it’s not my fault’s twisted sister. People don’t like to hear I can’t because they think it means I won’t. Saying I can’t suggests that you’re not willing to do what it takes to get the job done. If you really can’t do something because you truly lack the necessary skills, you need to offer an alternative solution. Instead of saying what you can’t do, say what you can do. For example, instead of saying “I can’t stay late tonight,” say “I can come in early tomorrow morning. Will that work?” Instead of “I can’t run those numbers,” say “I don’t yet know how to run that type of analysis. Is there someone who can show me so that I can do it on my own next time?”

“It’s not fair”

Everyone knows that life isn’t fair. Saying it’s not fair suggests that you think life is supposed to be fair, which makes you look immature and naïve. If you don’t want to make yourself look bad, you need to stick to the facts, stay constructive, and leave your interpretation out of it. For instance, you could say, “I noticed that you assigned Ann that big project I was hoping for. Would you mind telling me what went into that decision? I’d like to know why you thought I wasn’t a good fit, so that I can work on improving those skills.”

“That’s not in my job description”

This often sarcastic phrase makes you sound as though you’re only willing to do the bare minimum required to keep getting a paycheck, which is a bad thing if you like job security. If your boss asks you to do something that you feel is inappropriate for your position (as opposed to morally or ethically inappropriate), the best move is to complete the task eagerly. Later, schedule a conversation with your boss to discuss your role in the company and whether your job description needs an update. This ensures that you avoid looking petty. It also enables you and your boss to develop a long-term understanding of what you should and shouldn’t be doing.

“This may be a silly idea/I’m going to ask a stupid question”

These overly passive phrases instantly erode your credibility. Even if you follow these phrases with a great idea, they suggest that you lack confidence, which makes the people you’re speaking to lose confidence in you. Don’t be your own worst critic. If you’re not confident in what you’re saying, no one else will be either. And, if you really don’t know something, say, “I don’t have that information right now, but I’ll find out and get right back to you.”

“I’ll try”

Just like the word think, try sounds tentative and suggests that you lack confidence in your ability to execute the task. Take full ownership of your capabilities. If you’re asked to do something, either commit to doing it or offer an alternative, but don’t say that you’ll try because it sounds like you won’t try all that hard.

“This will only take a minute”

Saying that something only takes a minute undermines your skills and gives the impression that you rush through tasks. Unless you’re literally going to complete the task in 60 seconds, feel free to say that it won’t take long, but don’t make it sound as though the task can be completed any sooner than it can actually be finished.

“I hate this job”

The last thing anyone wants to hear at work is someone complaining about how much they hate their job. Doing so labels you as a negative person and brings down the morale of the group. Bosses are quick to catch on to naysayers who drag down morale, and they know that there are always enthusiastic replacements waiting just around the corner.

“He’s lazy/incompetent/a jerk”

There is no upside to making a disparaging remark about a colleague. If your remark is accurate, everybody already knows it, so there’s no need to point it out. If your remark is inaccurate, you’re the one who ends up looking like a jerk. There will always be rude or incompetent people in any workplace, and chances are that everyone knows who they are. If you don’t have the power to help them improve or to fire them, then you have nothing to gain by broadcasting their ineptitude. Announcing your colleague’s incompetence comes across as an insecure attempt to make you look better. Your callousness will inevitably come back to haunt you in the form of your coworkers’ negative opinions of you.

Bringing it all together

These phrases have a tendency to sneak up on you, so you’re going to have to catch yourself until you’ve solidified the habit of not saying them.

Travis Bradberry is the co-author of Emotional Intelligence 2.0 and the cofounder of TalentSmart. This article first appeared at LinkedIn.